I do not advocate keeping secrets from one's spouse. Usually I have never lied to my husband, or withheld important information. I confessed about splurging at that shoe sale at Joseph's as soon as I walked in the door; I have never considered hiding the American Express bill. I have a tell-all personality to begin with: I can't keep a secret worth a damn and am crummy at surprises. However, I admit that I used the Sneaky Approach on my husband for the first two weeks of this plan—and I might have gone even longer had not ego, pure and simple (mine, not his), stepped in the way.

You do not have to follow in my footsteps. You can tell your husband your plans, even discuss them with him, or read this book together. But in my case, for my husband, I knew that being sneaky was the only way to make this work. Here's why:

• I definitely thought the ends justified the means.
• I clearly remember my mother saying that sometimes it's kinder to tell a white lie than to tell the truth. I'm very big on kindness.
• I think that there are some things you talk about and some things you just do.

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